There is a chapter in "Surviving the First Five..." that deals with keeping others out of your business. You'll have to read the book to really understand what this means. For the most part it deals with not allowing others to influence your views on your spouse and dictate what you do in your #marriage. Now before you start jumping down my throat, I am not saying block others who are trying to help you get out of an abusive marriage.
So what s the #Marriage Truth? The truth of the matter is that when you allow outside sources to persuade your thoughts, actions, and emotions about your spouse and your #marriage. It only takes 1 sentence, 1 minute, 1 time to dissolve something you've worked so hard to build because you allowed "someone" else to come in.
Now I'm sure you are wondering why I put the word "someone" in quotations. It is not always a person who can cloud our #marriage judgment. It can be places (i.e. work, mom's house, bars, etc.), things (cars, jobs, electronics, money, etc.), or people. I think the biggest factor that works against marriages is allowing people to come in. If you go searching for answers in others and not your spouse, you are bound to open a can of worms that will hurt your #marriage. If you go looking for satisfaction in anyone or anything and it is not your spouse, you are asking for trouble.
Can marriages be saved? Absolutely. What does it take? How can we find the #Marriage Truth?
1) Seek advice and godly counsel from sources that mean you good and not harm. If you have to question their intentions, you just learned that you can't trust them.
2) Pray by faith and not with words. What good is prayer if we don't have faith that God will deliver us and fix the situation?
3) Read "Surviving the First Five: Insightful Encouragement for the Newly Married" and take heed to the wisdom you read and hear from others who have walked the walk. Wisdom is just words if you don't apply it.
4) OMG! Talk to each other!!! #Talk to your spouse on a consistent and daily basis. Put down the phone and talk it out. You can talk without yelling and throwing things. If you need to cry it out, cry it out. But keep talking. When you shut down the lines of communication, you risk exposing yourself to outside influences. #peerpressure is real.