Every now and again, we need a few moments of silence and a handful of pictures. Here are just a few inspirations about marriage, relationships, and love to brighten your day.
Do you really think I am going to talk about Valentine's Day? It's been done so many times. Why rewrite the book, when I can write a new one?
I will, however, tell you this:
Regardless of the true history of the start of Valentine's day and minus the commercialism of the holiday, it is still a great reason to show someone that you care.
I wish every day could be a Valentine type of day. Not with all of the chocolate, overstuffed animals, huge cards, and cheesy greetings. Instead, I wish that every month there was a day that every one around the world would tell someone how much they love them. I wish everyone would share a hug, a smile, and a laugh with a complete stranger. I wish everyone would take a moment to pray for someone, speak life into their situation, and give another person a high five for no reason.
How many times have you sent a Valentine's Day card and did not mean a word in it? What if you skipped the card and just said "Hi, you're pretty cool." How many lives would be impacted? I bet you it would me more than the national rate of suicides each year.
I urge you to take a day, a week, a month, a moment to just say something nice about someone else, and mean it. Instead of spending hundreds of dollars on merchandise (that will probably die or get lost), spend your time encouraging someone and showing them you care through simple acts of kindness. It is possible to change the world one Valentine's Day at a time.
I was about to blog about marriage and the psyche, but then I got bored. So I decided to change it up and talk about my week. I had a really good conversation with my friend the other day. I've been dealing with some internal conflicts between my head and my belief system. Yes, even the experts struggle.
A part of me wanted to give up and just leave everything behind. Another part of me (my spiritual side) felt convicted and needed more time to sort things out. It's amazing how 1 silent moment or 1 conversation can give you so much clarity. Sometimes you need to talk it out in order to figure it out. And while I didn't get a clear resolution from the conversation with my friend, it did help me to continue talking about my feelings and find my truth.
The truth of the matter is that, the problems I tried to bear and tried to figure out were already being worked out for me. Some of you may know the saying "the battle is not yours, it's the Lord." It's also a line in a Yolanda Adams song. It is a very true statement. I spent countless hours worrying about something that has not happened and contemplating a decision that I did not need to make. I'm exhausted just thinking about that.
God was already working things out for me, but I needed to hear Him say it. I also needed to realize that if I'm going to have faith, I have to use it all the time. Faith isn't a fancy scarf that you put on when it's cold or because you want to be fashionable. Faith is like your skin, it never goes out of style and it is always with you.
So in conclusion (lame ending), I want to encourage you to talk about your problems. Don't hold them in because the bitterness of misery does not taste well. I pray that you have at least one person who will listen to you without trying to fix you. I'm so grateful for my friends because they are always willing to let me vent my frustrations and get things off my chest. I've learned that the more time you spend communicating with yourself, God, and others, the more peace you will have. This is not to say you have to spill your guts 24/7, but to know that somethings need to be said. Talking could save your life. #TryIt
Well I back on my soap box. It's actually a nice place to be. Very clean. LOL. I am clearly not as funny as I think I am. Hence, why I am not a comedian.
Today's topic is teamwork. We learn from an early age that we have to learn to share and play nicely with our friends and classmates. Somewhere down the line we learn to be independent and accepting help means we are weak. I beg to differ. It is mixed messages that hinder our growth as individuals and as couples.
We get so caught up with maintaining our independence and frown upon those who are labeled "co-dependent". Can there be a happy medium? Absolutely. It is the interdependent state that we should strive to be in.
Interdependence means you and another person are mutually dependent on each other. God is dependent on us to carry out His will. We are dependent on God to hold true to his promises. It's a win-win. In relationships, we are to be dependent on our significant others to hold true to their promises, vows, and commitments to the relationship. In likeness, they expect the same from us.
So why is it so hard for us to depend on someone else? A marriage may work with only one person working at it, but eventually they get tired and grow weary of the future. It takes two. Both of you made the mutual decision to enter into a state of matrimony or advance your relationship status. So when did it become okay for you to stop holding up your end? When did it become okay for your partner to press pause and "do them"?
I encourage you to go back to the basics. Go back to the reasons you all first decided to become interdependent. Go back to the romantic state of your relationship and spend time examining what worked and try to build on that. It is not to say that you will spend your days reminiscing on what was and dig up past hurts. This is not to blame any one person for failed attempts. It is simply to get you to understand that it takes two to make a marriage/relationship work.
It is fun to swing, but it is better to have someone pushing you and motivating you to go higher. Don't they deserve the same thing from you?
Another Day's journey
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