Life does not work this way. We cannot "do us" and expect God to just go along with our plan. But it wasn't this part that really hit me. It was verse 13, which stated: "‘When I called, they did not listen; so when they called, I would not listen,’says the Almighty." Could you imagine God not listening to us? Perish the thought of going through this life alone and not having the Holy Spirit to guide us or God turning His shoulder and stopping His ear to hear us crying out to Him. There are a few directions I could take this blog, but I want to focus on the relationship side.
Marriage is supposed to be partnership, right? I was raised to believe, and still do, that the man was the head and the wife is submissive unto him. The pair work together to raise the children and tend to whatever household responsibilities that may come. One may bear a heavier load that the other in certain areas (child rearing, financial provider, discipline, etc.), but they still work together to make decisions. This would also require them actively listening to one another and communicating their relationship needs/wants on a regular basis. Sounds easy, right? What usually happens is that the bulk of the relationship responsibilities and family duties fall on one person, while the other just "does them". Let's just say the husband is the one who lives independently and the wife is the one desiring a closer and more affectionate relationship. The wife continues to talk with the husband and ask for more time, but he just wants to go hang out with his friends, go to work, or sleep. Meanwhile the wife is left alone with the children and her thoughts.
She continues to seek a close relationship with he husband and express her desires, yet he continues to go about his business and find things to distract him from his wife's request. But what if one day, the wife was not there. She was busy shuffling the kids back and forth and tending to her responsibilities. The husband begins searching the house, calling friends, calling relatives, but no one has heard from her. The wife's phone line is tied up as she is a working mom and is running a business. She doesn't have time to answer calls or text messages. She can't seem to find a break in the day to return a message. What do you think will happen to the husband? He may get angry, he may weep, or he may ignore it. Or maybe, just maybe, a day without his wife will become a wake up call that if he had only paid attention to her, he might have known what her plans were for the day. He might have known that she was stressed and overwhelmed and just needed someone to be there for her. He might have been able to save his marriage.
God is merciful and compassionate. God is love and forgiving. This does not mean we ought to take advantage of His good and grace by doing whatever we want and refusing to listen to God or follow His commandments. How we treat people today, is how we will be treated tomorrow. If we continue to take for granted the blessings of life and love that God has given us and not heed to His commands, we will be punished. Justice is always served.