You spent weeks, months, years of your life trying to get your spouse to see things your way. You've wrestled back and forth on that one concept that they just can't seem to grasp. That one problem within your relationship that just would not go away. You spent many nights crying yourself to sleep, tossing and turning, waking up in tears because neither one of you wanted to budge. You cannot even recall the number of times you called your friends or family to moan and groan about something they did, only to find out that they were calling their family and friends and now everyone was in your business. You almost lost your mind and half of your hair fooling around with their foolishness. And for what?
For that one moment in your relationship where a true change began to take place. The fighting stopped. The arguing stopped. The crying changed from sorrow to joy. It didn't even matter how it changed, you were grateful that it did. The rain that seemed to go on forever, finally stopped. The peace you were praying for was here. Now what? How do you like in peace when you've been living in turmoil for so long?
The steps are really simple, actually. Although, the actual work is not
1) Forgiveness has to be come second nature, especially to Christians. This is a part of the Christian faith that is taught to us from an early age. After the Rain, it will be very difficult to live in harmony with your spouse if you are still holding on to past sins. I've often heard that forgiveness is not for the other person, rather it is for you. Forgiveness means I accept that no one is perfect. I am willing to move past whatever differences we had and look towards our future. Forgiveness is intentional. It means I have changed my heart and my feelings towards you. If ever you find yourself wondering why a situation has not changed, look at the forgiveness factor.
2) Stop the Madness! This means you are to work on stopping the behaviors and thoughts that caused you harm in the past. If you are a wife who snoops, stop it. If you are a husband who has a 2nd cell phone, cut it off. If you are the girlfriend of a guy who has a wife, #SitDownSomewhere. You cannot expect to see results if you continue to do the same thing over and over again. It works the same way with your thoughts. You can't move forward, if your thought process keeps you in a negative space.
3) Love Hard! Love is what brought you together. Love needs to stay in the midst of every relationship. Make an effort to say "I love you" each day. Make the effort to turn off the television and just spend time gazing, talking, or holding each other. When you focus on loving someone, it leaves little time to hate them. Prioritize your love so that you can begin to build a stronger foundation for your marriage. Love like your life depends on it.
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