Us-Care is the time we spend giving our relationship a tune-up, check-up or makeover. Us-Care involves making the necessary repairs and upgrades to our relationships. There is no set time for when we have to work on our relationships. Us-Care is not one person working on the relationship. It is not just a few date nights here and there. Us-Care is both parties working to identify issues, triggers, and working on solutions. Did I mention that Us-Care means you are working together with your spouse/partner? It is very difficult for a relationship to prosper when one person is doing all the work and the other is watching ESPN. I said this for a reason, because most times it's the woman who reads the relationship books and the man who complains about having to do the exercises.
When I wrote "Surviving the First Five: Insightful Encouragement for the Newly Married", I wrote it with the whole couple in mind. It is a form of Us-Care. "Surviving the First Five" dives into key issues that most couples face at early stages in their marriage or relationship. Us-Care means you are willing to be naked with the person you love and work on making your relationship better.
I must warn you that Us-Care can be difficult at times and can open up a can a worms that you may not be able to close. Us-Care for your relationships is a crucial part of the longevity of a relationship. If you sweep dirt under the rug long enough, it is going to create a lump. Don't blame the rug when you trip and fall because you didn't deal with the dirt before it was swept under the rug.
How you chose to have Us-Care is up to you and your partner. I encourage you to start the discussion and utilize every resource possible to help you and your partner work on your relationship. It's only too late when one person has already left.