The husand is the head of the family and the wife is the neck that turns the head around!!"
It got me to thinking. If the wife is the neck and she controls the husband, then doesn't that contradict the premise of the man being the head and the wife being submissive to him?
Which led to me wondering about all the times I tried to control my husband and didn't allow him the opportunity to be the head. I know I'm not alone in this matter either. I've seen so many women try to be the dominant one in the marriage and the husband be submissive to them. Don't get me wrong, we are to be submissive to each other, but it is the woman who is supposed to be under the protection of her husband and his coverings.
Confused? I was for a while too. But down the line I figured out a system that works best for us. I am submissive to my husband in that I respect his decisions (which we mostly make together for big things) and look to him to protect us and provide for us. Of course, God ultimately does these things, but he puts my husband in position to take care of his family. My husband is submissive to me as a statement that he values my input and contributions to the family. He doesn't demean me or disregard my role in any way.
Our system is that we count each day as a blessing and try to communicate our desires, needs, wants, and schedules often. It is a challenge and at times we struggle to get past our own egos. Nonetheless, we make it work. Married life is a roller coaster that I'll ride forever. We talk it out, hash it out, and love it out. We have worked to learn each others roles so that we can understand how hard it is to be in the other's shoes.
Married life is about all of these things and more. It is about not taking each other for granted and knowing that while the physical body is replaceable, the spirit is not. So while I may be the neck and my husband the head, he still tells me which way to turn.