I have been in several impasses in my thirty years. Being at an impasse is not always a bad thing. Sometimes it is a wake up call that God needs your attention. You make it rather difficult for God to give you direction, if you are running in a thousand directions at one time.
So as I approached thirty, I decided to stop and reflect on my impasses and what God me through them. From this reflection came a few lessons.
1) Prayer Works! Before you can move, you must pray. Pray for God to move you and not your feet. When we try to move ourselves and go a certain route, we mess things up. For example, taking a job that gives you headaches everyday or being a relationship that leaves you crying all night are two examples of what happens when we make our own decisions without God. I've learned that when I release control and pray to God, God is able to mold me, rearrange my attitude, and place me where he wants me to be.
2) An impasse is only temporary. Being at an impasse is not a permanent stage in life. You can make it one, but it gets old very fast. Even when I was in a rut for months or feeling stagnate I knew it was only a matter of time before I would be back on track. I kept praying for change, but with it came an increase in my faith and a 'Can Do' attitude. I guess you can say I willed myself out of the impasse. I would say that my faith and hope for better kept me positive and focused on getting unstuck. There were days that I could not see the light at the end of the tunnel, but my faith would not let me forget that it was there.
3) Faith without Works is Dead. It was not enough that I believed I would be set free. I had to work on becoming free. That debt that is holding you hostage, release it. Give it to God, keep focused on the finish line, and keep making payments. I'm no stranger to collection calls. Sometimes life happens and we cannot meet all of our financial obligations, but you must continue to strive to stay on top. While I was writing my first book, I wanted to give up a few times. I was so focused on home, school, and church that I didn't have time to write. Thus I had faith that it would get done, but I was not working to balance everything and manage my stress. Clearly I found time to write because my book was published last year.
In my final reflection, I learned that it is a part of life. We all go through phases in life that may have us feeling stuck and in a rut. It is a part of life that requires more dedication and faith. You can come out of your impasse and get on the path to a victorious life. The harder I worked at listening to God and doing what God told me to do, the more obstacles tried to keep me in my impasse. I found out that the more I trusted God, the stronger my faith got, and the more I was able to ignore the nay-sayers and overcome obstacles. In my thirty years of learning, the most important thing I learned was that Jesus loves me and that is all that matters. No man, job, battle, or war can define me because God created me and will always be there to take care of me.