My grandmother used to say I have the spirit of discernment on me. Discernment is defined as
keen perception or judgment (www.dictionary.com). I didn't always understand it, but I knew I was peculiar because I could read a situation or a person and see past the superficial meaning. Granted, there have been times when my blinders were on and I caught caught up in situations that weren't healthy for me. Over time, I've learned to keep my blinders down and my discernment up. Some may say it's being guarded. I say it's fighting with the armor of God and not the armor of man.
The defintion of a battle is a conflict or struggle (www.dictionary.com). The term battle has many more definitions, but this one seems to fit the theme of this post the best. A conflict can be internally, between to two or more parties or with an inanimate object. Ephesians 6:12 (NKJV) reads: "For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age,against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places." Some of you (including me) may feel like you are wrestling or battling against your flesh or someone else's, but really its more.
Dig deeper for a minute. What is it about that person that is causing you to react like you do? What about the situation has your emotions in awry? It is never the person, but the spirit behind the person that we are fighting. Discerning battles means (my definition) you are able to look past the situation and into the lesson God is trying to tell you. It's more than holding your peace. It's bigger than arguing your point of view. It's being able to decide whether or not you are going to allow their spirit to interrupt the flow of your spirit. Sometimes (meaning all the time) you've got to step aside and let the Lord fight for you.
I've learned that when I use my discernment, I have more peace in my life. I can think clearer and more objectively, instead of reacting subjectively and emotionally. It's not always the case, but when I truly give the situation to Jesus and tell Him all about my troubles, I am able to sleep at night and keep my blood pressure in check. My attitude changes and my head does not hang when I walk. How do I do it? You ask. I pray. I cry. I shout to God. I use thought stopping techniques and behavioral techniques to reframe my thoughts so that it is not the flesh talking, but God talking. I read the word of God and try to block out all noises so that I can hear from God. I use the coping skills I tell my patients to use and work hard at keeping my anxiety levels to a minimum. Discerning battles are not easy. It is very easy to get swept away in the chaos of life. But it is even easier to turn to God when your spirit suspects a battle is approaching.