I came to the conclusion that marriage is not a convenience, a last resort, contingent upon other factors, or done in a haste or with an ultimatum. I understand that everyone's reason is different, but my reason remains the same. So, why as a couple who's been married for 5, 10, or 50 years why they got married? Why not? Their answers may surprise you.
If the reason is anything other than love, you've got a problem. You can ask my husband a million times why he married me and he will say it's because he loves me. I will always concur. The hard part is not always why a couple gets married, but why they are staying married. As time goes on, we all grow up, mature, and change. It is life. We evolve into our true selves. No amount of makeup or expensive cologne can cover up our truth. The easiest way to not stay married is to grow as two individuals and not as one unit. I get that each person has their goals and may achieve different levels of success. What joy can come from achieving your dreams when your spouse is left in the dust? None that I know of.
While I can go on and on on this subject (which I have in my book - see New Releases section), I will conclude my point with this. Marriage 101 has one principle. If after 5, 10, 20, or 50 years of marriage you and your spouse can still give the same or similar answers as to why you got and are still married, you are on the right track. If within 10 seconds you can answer that question with "because I love her/him", you my friend have nailed it. Marriage is a work, but the reason for working so hard is easy. To the phenomenal songstress Jill Scott "It's love."